Today more than ever, continuous learning is a necessary skill for your survival. But without others to learn things from, it can be a rough road for us guys.
As I mentioned in an earlier blog entry, men and women are hard-wired to think in very different ways. Our brains like to go the binary route: we say, “Okay, this is right, that over there is wrong, and I learn by discovering whatever is most right.” In The Way of the Superior Man, the author states that “Life as a man is like a constant error correction. Making a mistake, and correcting, then making another mistake, and correcting.” Women, on the other hand, rely much more on intuition when they think and learn. They say, “This is how I feel, and based on everything I’m taking in, I’m going to feel out what I want to do next.” One way isn’t better or worse than the other. They’re just different. It’s very hard for most men to think like a woman, and vice versa.
Since men aren’t as good at feeling their way through things, they tend to overcome that disadvantage by observing and talking with other men. Once we have a model for the “right” way to solve a problem, we follow that model ourselves. We learn many things from women this way, too, but obviously they can’t teach us everything we need to know.
So if you’re still on the fence about finding a bro, or procrastinating with finishing your bro-file, just remember that there’s always more to learn about what it means to be a man. And finding a guy friend is one of the best ways to optimize your path of learning.
-The Blog Dude