Maybe you’re wondering why, all of a sudden, we’re seeing so much in the news about powerful men trying to take advantage of employees. In fact, it’s a problem that’s been going on for centuries. In this article, I’m going to say a few words about why it’s happening and what you can do.
Remember when you were around 12 or 13, and you acquired your first dirty magazine? You were totally pumped (pun intended) when you locked yourself in the bathroom, or went out into the woods, and “used” that mag. Yes, I mean used in every sense of the word. Nothing to be ashamed about: every bro has been there. It’s just part of adolescence, a milestone on the path to becoming a fully developed male adult.
Unfortunately, some guys just never seem to get out of that adolescent stage. (Maybe you’ve met a few of them.) They don’t learn that women have the same worth and dignity as men do, so they go on behaving as if women exist to be used. It can get worse from there: some of these guys, after gaining a certain amount of money and power, believe that they should have women giving them sexual attention just because of their own status. Not for the sake of a relationship, just to show that they have “better” women than other guys do.
So what can you do?
The first step is the simplest. If you haven’t done it already, stop being an adolescent and start being a MAN, bro. You’re old enough, and you’re smart enough. You don’t need other people to constantly look up to you: you already know that you’re a worthwhile dude. And your worth as a man has nothing to do with your job, your bank account, or whoever else shares a bed with you. Those ideas come from a consumer culture that’s trying to commercialize manhood and sell you their stuff. You’ve seen thousands of examples this year alone.
The second thing to do is to find bros who are also men, not stuck in adolescence. Hang out with them. When you surround yourself with bros who don’t feel threatened by their insecurities, it automatically helps you conquer your own.
-The Blog Dude