New Year, New Bro-file


Happy new year, dudes.

For those of you who signed up on seekbromance.com and currently have a bro-file, I have some news. Over the last week of 2011, I added some new fields in the “Interests” section of the bro-file pages, which are:

  • Hunting
  • Fishing
  • Military
  • Philosophy
  • Photography
  • Dog & Owner Activities

If any of these apply to you, go update your bro-file now: it only takes a minute or two.

What? You don’t have a bro-file? Dude, it’s the only way other bros on the site can contact you. You aren’t signed up? Go register! Both signing up and creating your bro-file are absolutely free. Either way, what are you waiting for?

Here’s to 2012 being the year your social life gets a lot more interesting!

Cheers,
-The Blog Dude

Like us on Facebook and win prizes in 2012


Starting January 1, you can now win free communication time for your seekBromance.com account by participating in our “Like us on Facebook” contest.

All you have to do is click on the “Like” button at the top of the seekBromance home page, and become a fan on our Facebook page, and you’ll be entered.

Each month, one lucky bro will be selected for the prize. To be eligible to win, you must:
1. Have an approved and active bro-file.
2. Keep liking us throughout the month.
3. Make sure the email you’re using on seekBromance.com matches your Facebook email. (If it doesn’t, don’t sweat it. You can always change the email you use for us by clicking on “Account Settings” when you sign in.)

The winner receives a weekend of free contacts, Friday through Sunday. If you’re already a subscriber, you’ll get a credit on your PayPal account for the three days instead.

Good luck, and here’s to an awesome new year!

Don’t forget our YouTube channel


Not only are we in the process of casting for some new TV commercials – which of course will end up on the YT page – we are always open to showcasing things that you, the friends of seekBromance.com, create.

Review the site, tell us what you think about the state of man-dating today, or just about anything else that has to do with dudes connecting with each other.

seekBromance.com’s YouTube page

Happy Holidays!
-The blog dude.

Facebook Woes


I have some unfortunate news, guys.

My plan was to finish coding and launching the Facebook login feature for seekBromance.com today. As it turns out, their SDK isn’t loading when I expect it to, and none of my tweaks fixed the problem. Looks like I’ll have to join a bunch of developer discussion forums and ask for feedback. I’m sure it’s a minor bug; it’s just a question of identifying it.

If any of you out there are Facebook coding gurus, please shoot me an email if you want to offer a little help.

Dudes and Humor Part Deux: Teasing


In case you were wondering about the “part deux” in the title, it’s a reference to my earlier post on dudes and humor. You don’t necessarily have to read that article to understand this one, but if you haven’t yet, check it out. You’ll find it interesting.

If you grew up around actual brothers and/or sisters, you are probably well practiced in the art of teasing. Maybe you dished it out, or maybe you had to take it, or both. Although teasing can be malicious, it can also be playful. When it’s playful, it’s a healthy part of a close relationship. (I’m not going to say anything else about malicious teasing, because the point of these articles is to help you make friends, not enemies.)

People are often afraid to tease a friend out of anxiety that it will backfire and be perceived as an insult. As with any other skill, you won’t be able to do it right 100% of the time. That’s why you need to practice on those you have known for years. People you can explain that you didn’t mean what it sounded like. As you might expect, the odds of unintentionally insulting someone go up when you know them less well. That’s why nobody tries to tease a stranger. At least not a complete stranger.

If the whole “think before you speak” philosophy ever applies, it applies to teasing. Fortunately, there are ways you can screen what you want to say before you say it. The key is to get an idea of the other person’s level of self-esteem. Sometimes, when their egos are huge, you will never get much of their attention unless you can prove that you’re at their level or better, and a little teasing can be a good way to accomplish that. For example, if you meet an athletic-looking alpha male at a party, and he already has two or three women hovering around him, you could say something like “So do you owe it all to Hydroxycut?” On the other hand, if you said that to a fat man at the party who was standing in a corner by himself, you would be a complete bastard. The alpha male is so accustomed to being looked up to and fawned over that your joke would seem like a breath of fresh air. You’re just bridging the social gap to gain rapport with him.

The most important thing to remember about good-natured teasing is that it reminds both people involved not to take things too seriously. Keeping things playful is important to preserving your ability to have fun in life. Just remember never to be cruel to anyone, and to leave them in a happier mood that you found them in. The goal is for everyone to be laughing.

Public Service Announcement: “Mo Bros” wanted


If you’ve heard about “movember,” or if you ever just needed an excuse to grow a mustache, here’s some good news:

“On Movember 1st, guys register at Movember.com with a clean-shaven face. For the rest of the month, these selfless and generous men, known as Mo Bros, groom, trim and wax their way into the annals of fine moustachery. …Mo Bros raise funds by seeking out sponsorship for their Mo-growing efforts.” The proceeds are donated to research in prostate and other types of cancer.

For more information, go to us.movember.com.

Dudes and Humor


Have you ever heard a woman say, “I’m looking for a man who can make me laugh?” Sure, it’s a cliché, but it became a cliché for a reason. Of course, a woman who says this isn’t saying EXACTLY what she means, but it does provide an important clue to what she means. Believe it or not, guys are looking for pretty much the same thing in a bro. So let’s look deeper into what’s going on here.

Modern science hasn’t offered many solid conclusions yet as to why humans and other primates developed the instinct of laughter. The best theory so far is that laughter is one of many tools for social bonding. There’s good evidence to support this theory: studies have shown that people laugh much more frequently when they’re in groups than they do when they’re alone. Other studies show that people in groups laugh at many things besides jokes: the person you’re around has much more ability to make you laugh than the actual joke does. But before I hit you with any more of this theory, let’s take a real-world example.

I love to people-watch, especially in crowded spots where I can sit comfortably and observe the world going by. I’ve actually collected some stories about people watching, and I trade them with friends of mine who do the same thing. Here’s a story I got from one of them.

My friend was having dinner at a restaurant that was popular for dating. About 30 feet from his table, he noticed a couple at another table and started watching their body language. Both the man and the woman were obviously uncomfortable with each other, so it was most likely their first date, maybe even a blind date. The man was trying to joke with her, but she wasn’t laughing at any of his punch lines, and he was laughing a little too much at his own.

Then something happened.

The woman finally laughed at something her date said, and from that instant forward, the entire dynamic had changed. It was like flipping a switch. These two were going to be a couple, at least for a while.

Does this story surprise you? Turn the tables and think about the last time you were with friends, male or female. Can you remember something funny that one of them said or did? You probably can, maybe even from years ago. Now think about a time when you had to be around someone who made you uncomfortable. (Maybe it was for a good reason, or maybe it was just your gut-level instinct. For this example it doesn’t matter.) Now, did you laugh at any of this person’s jokes? Not unless you were faking it.

There’s one other thing I believe every guy should understand when it comes to humor beyond standup comedy. The people with the best sense of humor are the least worried about what others think of them. The less they actively seek someone’s laughter, the more they get it. Laughter is an invitation to bond with someone’s social group, but you never NEED an invitation to a particular group. No matter who you are, not everyone will laugh at your jokes, but this is actually a good thing. Humor works as a filter to help you find the bros and ladies who are most compatible with you. Happy hunting!

Bros before hos? It depends.


The motto “bros before hos” has been around a while, but these days it’s probably most associated with Barney Stinson, from How I Met Your Mother, and his Bro Code. Like all stereotypes and exaggerations, there is some truth to it. After all, you can’t realistically expect to keep close guy friends if you spontaneously ditch them every time any woman smiles at you in public.

Of course, if it’s your wife on the other end of the cell phone connection, she definitely has to come first (no pun intended, you barely-contained horn dogs). That’s what marriage is all about. With any other woman, it’s pretty much your call either way. If she can’t respect the fact that you need space as much as she does, then she’s not worth it: nothing else matters.

I’ll leave you with Mr. Stinson’s reading of the first part of the Bro Code, because, in my opinion Neil Patrick Harris is not at all a bad actor.

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