Brocabulary


In the years that we’ve seen bro culture grow and thrive, many new words have found their way into bro-speak. But you need to be careful when you’re trying to use them: you can’t just tack the syllable “bro” to the beginning of any random word and assume you’ll sound cool when you say it. Too many wannabes have learned this the hard way.

Thanks to field research, we’re able to give you a list of words that have gained acceptance with the bro species, along with their definitions.

bro chick (or bro ho): A woman who frequently hangs out with multiple bros, often with the goal of seducing as many of them as possible.

brofessional: A bro who has entered the work force. Although he wears a suit and tie on weekdays from 9 to 5, he behaves like a typical bro at other times.

brodeo: A sizable gathering of bros.

bromantic circle: A group of bros, all of whom are close friends with one another.

bro out: To hang out with one or more other bros, engaging in well-recognized bro activities.

The list of words below are a bit more questionable, but I’m including them mostly because I like them. Time will tell if the bro community widely adopts any of them.

brochacho: A muchacho who is also a bro.

brodacious: The masculine version of bodacious

brohemian: An artsy bro, likely a vegetarian and possibly a 420er.

Remember, bro-speak is always evolving, so there will definitely be more brocabulary updates in the future. Keep following us!

 

 

How to Make a Guy See You As a Bro


An acquaintance of mine was recently talking about how we live in an age where men rarely make friends with other men. The reason, he believes, is that guys, unless they’re jocks or alpha males, are too afraid of being humiliated or rejected.

Most guys understand this fear, I believe, because the very same emotions get in our way when we try to socialize with women. Maybe you got over that fear with women. If you did, it was through applying psychology, and you can very easily apply the same psychology when you’re looking for a guy friend. So let’s step back for a moment and think about human behavior in social groups.

First, reverse the question and ask yourself: “What do I look for in a friend?” No matter how you answer this question, whether you’re a jock or a nerd, an alpha or an omega, your answers will ALWAYS have one thing in common with everybody else’s.
You look for qualities that you find valuable. It all boils down to that. You certainly don’t want to hang out with someone who’s boring or socially empty. You want to hang out with people who are cool. So does everyone else.

But here’s where things start to go so wrong for so many of us. When you see someone you think is cooler than you are, you assign them a higher value than yourself, at least unconsciously. And the second, literally the second that you begin to interact with them, they unconsciously perceive your assignment of lower value to yourself. That, my friend, is what makes them inclined to reject or even humiliate you. You just gave them permission to do it.

How do you solve this problem? The first thing to do is to stop seeking the other person’s approval, because doing so automatically sets you up for failure. Tell yourself that you already have the other person’s approval, and that they have yours. Behave like this is true, and amazingly, the perceptions of most other people will come into line. Why? They see you as having equal value to them, because you just assigned yourself equal value. It’s the path of least resistance. Perception becomes reality, but this time you’re using it to your advantage.

The above tactic will work on the vast majority of guys and women you interact with. Still, there will be those who want to throw cold water on the party, and you need to learn (and practice) how to defuse their efforts without getting upset or angry. There are many psychological tactics you can use to accomplish this, but I’ll keep it simple. Remember, there are always multiple ways of looking at the same situation. If someone is being sarcastic, for example, you can pretend to take it as a compliment. For other negative statements, you can behave as though the person meant something completely different. (Psychologists call this “reality projection.” If you can “hold” your projection longer than the others in the group can, they will begin to question their own views of reality. Yes, it sounds bizarre, but it works!)

The last thing I want to leave you with is that socializing, whether it’s with women or with other guys, is supposed to be fun. You should be trying to make them smile, and they should be trying to do the same for you. If they don’t, or if you don’t feel like you want to bother making them smile, then it just means that they’re not the right people for you to spend time with.

What’s a Man Date (and Why Isn’t It Gay?)


Man is a social animal. Forty thousand years of evolution taught our male ancestors to spend lots of time with one another, mostly for hunting. That’s why it’s perfectly natural for straight men to enjoy the company of their male peer group.

Go to any college campus, where social life is at its most spontaneous, and you’ll see this instinct being played out all the time. Even if there aren’t fraternity houses on campus, there will still be groups of guys studying, or sitting around drinking beer and shooting the bull all night. All this without any homosexual anxiety. So if you feel anxious about spending time with another guy without being perceived as gay, get over it. As a man, you need the friendship of other men. It’s perfectly normal.

(By the way, women seem to automatically recognize the same thing about themselves. That’s why they so often go out with female friends, and nobody thinks they’re lesbians for doing so.)

The other problem men have is that, after college, the opportunities to socialize with each other dwindle to almost none. We’re all so busy these days that it’s almost impossible to speak to even your kid’s third-grade teacher without scheduling the time in advance. The modern concept of “man dating” is really nothing more than blocking out some time with your buddy in the same way you’d make an appointment with your dentist.

And that, my friends, is why real men go on man dates.

 

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