Is your package dumbing you down?


Hey bros,

The late George Carlin summarized “…everything you need to know about male-female relationships: women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid.” In our case, science is starting to show that George was right.

Although it’s true that the big dumb jock is a cliché, in this case there may actually be a reason that it became a cliché. The reason? Testosterone, dudes. We’ve known for a long time that it makes you bigger, and that it makes you more athletic, but now we’re seeing some early studies that it makes guys dumber, too. Our favorite hormone gets the hat trick.

In one of the best-known examples of such a study, guys were tasked with taking a “Cognitive Reflection Test.” This type of test consists of questions and puzzles involving logic and math, but where most people are likely to spot an intuitive answer before working through to the correct answer. In other words, the less impulsive the test takers are, the better they do.

These bros took one part of the test, and then given testosterone gel to rub on their chests. After the T kicked in, they began the next part of the test, but their accuracy dropped by a good 20%. They were also more confident about their answers. Yup, instant dumb jocks!

Now I can hear some of you guys panicking: “I love working out, bro, but I don’t want to be DUMB!! How do I fix this?”

Dude. Calm down.

It’s true that when you train your muscles, your body produces more testosterone. But fortunately, there’s a counterbalance. That same exercise also gets your blood stream absorbing more oxygen, which in turn improves your brain’s cognitive performance. Remember, nature loves to keep things in balance. (Of course, if you mess with nature and take steroids, that’s a completely different situation.)

So feel free to keep going with your workout program. Besides, you now have an excuse when your girlfriend, wife, or other female relative gets exasperated with you during a conversation. You can just shrug and say, “You’re right; I’m talking out of my nuts.”

Later,
-The Blog Dude

New Facebook Ad for SeekBromance


Hello my dudes,

Normally I wouldn’t bother talking about our ad campaigns, because we use them to attract new members, while most of you reading this are already members, or at least familiar with seekBromance.com.

However, I thought you guys would get a kick out of our new photo that we’re using in Facebook. Here’s an example of how the ad generally shows up:

Facebook bromance horse

Okay, more substantial stuff next time. I promise.

Happy bromancing!

Later,
-The Blog Dude

When you help a bro


Hey dudes,

Most of the time, your dreams probably don’t teach you anything. They’re sort of a data dump that lets your body clean out the clutter in your brain. But once in a while, a dream can contain some interesting lessons. So I want to share a dream I had a few nights ago.

In this dream, I’m back in college, in a class. This particular classroom was unusual, though. The students were on couches, plush chairs, and beanbag chairs arranged around the perimeter of the room, with the professor lecturing from the center. I was on one of the couches, with my torso upright on a pillow against one of the couch arms, and my legs stretched out. I was dutifully taking notes with the pad on my lap.

Then, without warning, I developed an extremely intense erection, despite there being nothing in the room that I felt aroused by. It was intense enough to actually make me feel physically uncomfortable. Don’t judge, bros: we all know that we’re sexual beings, and that sometimes our dicks have minds of their own. I’m no exception.

As I was doing what I could to conceal the embarrassment with my notepad, the professor noticed. Without a word, he picked up his drink from the small table next to him and gently tossed it over to my couch. (It was a covered, clear plastic cup, similar to the ones they use at Starbucks.) I began drinking through the straw, watching the ice cubes, and enjoyed the taste of a multi-fruit blend. It brought me back to normal, so of course I felt a lot better.

I believe that this was one of those dreams that was trying to teach me a lesson. Specifically, when you’re helping a bro who’s in trouble, do it quietly: don’t make a big show out of it. For centuries, people have been saying the same thing about giving to charity. The bottom line is that when someone is in trouble, you simply help, without expecting anything in return. You’d want your bro to do the same for you.

Later,
-The Blog Dude

Online Fun for Lockdown (Part 1)


Hey dudes,

This lockdown hasn’t been easy on us. After all, the whole point of seekBromance is to help you find a potential guy friend that you can meet in person, which is not an option for most of you right now. So lately I’ve begun to have trouble coming up with bromance-related articles. Over the last month or so, I have been researching a bunch of possible things I can do to make this site better. That’s resulted in many discoveries, one of which I’ll introduce you to now.

I recently came across a cool piece of software that lets the user create the kinds of quizzes and lists that you see on sites like Buzzfeed. You know, just good, clean, lockdown fun online. I’ve got a few bro-ey examples already, so I’m going to kick this off with the one you see below. Feel free to share the link, and let me know if you like this idea or hate it.

Which TV Bro should be your real-life bro?

TV bros

Enjoy, dudes!

Later,
-The Blog Dude

Bro Gear Review: GetResponse Autoresponder


This is one of an ongoing series in the seekBromance blog called Bro Gear, which features staff reviews of various items that bros often buy. We’ll still be going back and forth to the site news and the tips categories, so please keep following this blog for more of everything!

In my recent article about becoming your own bro-boss online, I mentioned that you would need an autoresponder to send out emails to potentially interested customers. Now I’m going to talk about a specific tool which does exactly that. While there are quite a few companies out there who sell autoresponder delivery services, GetResponse is one of the best in terms of giving you the most value for the price.

What the bro likes:

  • Full set of email templates, with plenty of storage for graphics and other media. Of course, there are also blank templates that you can use to create your own layouts or just for minimalist text.
  • Spam score checker. It’s always good to know if your finished email draft has anything problematic that the spam catchers will attack.
  • Price: It’s hard to beat $15/month for up to 1,000 users. And just about impossible for the set of integrations to third-party tools that don’t cost anything extra.

What the bro doesn’t like:

  • Setting up your first autoresponder series has kind of a learning curve, but it works well once you master it.
  • There’s no free plan, but the trial period is fairly generous (30 days).
  • Support. Actually, the support compares fairly well in terms of live chat and email, plus a good knowledge base. However, some problems are best resolved by phone, which is not provided.

The bro gives GetResponse an overall score of: 8 fist bumps out of 10        

By the way, if you’re looking into e-commerce or affiliate marketing, and if you don’t have an existing website, you may want to consider subscribing to a ‘funnel’ series page builder. There’s currently a dual-offer to purchase GetResponse with the HBA funnel tool, available as a package from the 30-Minute Work Day. I highly recommend it.

Later,
-The Blog Dude

Bro Lives Matter: What You Can Do


Hey dudes,

So you want to join seekBromance in taking a stand against racism. What does that mean? Maybe you’ve heard that everyone is racist, anyway.

That’s actually true. Up to a point, anyway.

Let’s back up so that I can explain. No matter who you are, and no matter what race you are, you grew up with a lifetime of social conditioning. This took the form of things that people said to you repeatedly, starting as soon as you were old enough to understand them. You heard them from your family members, from your classmates, and maybe even your teachers. Eventually these thoughts got firmly planted in your subconscious mind, where they remain to this day.

Some of these thoughts included racial stereotypes, along with other ideas about what people of a particular race were like. The end result is that, as soon as you see someone who resembles a person from that race, the corresponding stereotypes are called up in your mind, all within less than a second. Does that make you a racist? In my opinion, that depends only on how you act toward that person after you discover that he or she does not conform to those stereotypes. You might not be able to get rid of your social conditioning, but you can control how you act on it.

So what can you do, as a member of seekBromance, to fight racism?

Start by going to the search page, and look at the “Advanced Search” section. Pick some common interests, and then pick a race from the pull-down menu that’s different from yours. Don’t worry if the results show guys who are far away, it’s likely to be a while before you can safely meet them in person, anyhow. Just reach out with a fist bump, and then send an introductory message.

Happy bromancing!

Later,
-The Blog Dude

Top 5 Interests of seekBromance.com Members


Hey dudes,

Today I have a nice surprise for you. Something I think every member of seekBromance is going to like a whole lot.

First, a little background. As you know, if you’re busy looking for another bro for your posse, one of the best places to start is with what kind of interests you and he have in common. Online sites like seekBromance make it easy to search for common interests, and so does the app. But what if you aren’t getting the results you were hoping for?

That’s where today’s surprise comes in. For the first time ever, I have compiled a member count for each of the 56 interests that can be checked in your bro-file. All of them have a nice, solid following among the seekBromance membership. But here, my bros, are the five most popular:

Number 5: Music – Rock

The only music category to crack the top 5, although Pop/R&B isn’t too far behind. Makes sense, though: there’s such a huge variety that to call yourself a fan of rock music is like calling yourself an American. It can mean a lot of things.

But you don’t have to analyze: just rock on, man!

Number 4: Computers – Internet

I’m actually surprised this one isn’t higher, to be honest. After all, every one of us is on the web and/or using the app. It’s cool: there’s a lot of fun to be had with geeking out.

Number 3: Hiking – Camping

This one can even work during a lockdown, as long as you stay at least 6 feet apart – or wear your masks when you aren’t. With all of the U.S. and Canada to hike around in, you couldn’t ask for much more. (I’m sure the UK has awesome trails and campsites too, but I don’t speak from personal experience there.)

Number 2: Nature

Yeah, this includes hiking, but there are plenty of other fun things involved when you’re out in nature. Picking berries, tracking wildlife, swimming in creeks, and many more. Even watching squirrels can be fun: I used to feed them breath mints, and it was hilarious to watch them hold the hard candy in their paws and efficiently nibble it down to nothing.

So now it’s time for number 1. This is it. Here it comes.

Number 1: Movies/Cinema

These aren’t going to be available until after the lockdown, and some movie theaters will actually go out of business because of Covid-19. Not to worry, though. If you’re not close to a surviving theater, you can be sure that plenty of organizations will hold their own movie screenings. And the big studios aren’t going to let their new releases languish on Netfilx forever. The movie business will find a way.

The bottom line

So if you checked any of these interests in your bro-file, you’re in really good company. And if you haven’t, but think you might like one of them, by all means update your bro-file. Now that everyone knows the top 5, it might just bring in some bros who want to get to know you.

And finally, remember that if you’re in a lockdown, the smartest thing to do is to wait until the “all clear” before you meet someone in person. Until then, keep the conversation on line, and…

Happy bromancing!

Later,
-The Blog Dude

seekBromance Stands with Black Lives Matter


As a business that promotes friendship, we are committed to help create a world where friendship can succeed: a world of greater safety and greater trust.

We stand against racism.

We stand against homophobia.

We stand against religious bigotry.

We stand for equal justice under the law and for equal treatment socially for all individuals.

We stand for inclusion.

We hope that all of our members will volunteer some time or donate some money to causes that help to make this planet safer and more welcoming to human differences. Inaction can only make social problems worse.

-The Blog Dude

4 Secrets to Using Your Phone Like a Bro


Hey bros,

We’ve talked before about things we can do with our cell phones, such as gym selfies, but there are some other unwritten rules that will help you guys make the most of your mobiles.

  1. It’s still a phone: Talk on it.
    As social creatures, we humans rely heavily on speaking to others. Maybe you can get away with using only text messaging if you’re Sherlock Holmes, but hopefully you’re trying to be more approachable than that. Of course, in a lockdown or shelter-in-place situation, the need to talk to more than just the people you live with is even greater.
  2. Google is a search engine, not an answer engine.
    Having access to Google from your phone is almost miraculous, but don’t fall into the trap of thinking you are now knowledgeable about topic X because you just Googled it. After all, you can Google the most ridiculous concept and get back tens of thousands of pages written by people who believe that very thing. So Google is not a replacement for research, even if it’s a good place to begin research.
  3. Have some class: DON’T send dick pics!
    Our horny impulses aside, there are some very logical reasons not to go this route. First, the penis is simply not an attractive part of the human anatomy, regardless of your gender or sexual preference. This makes sense, because the penis is meant to be inserted into things, rather than waved around like a peacock’s tail feathers. Second, when you send a photo to someone, it becomes theirs to do with as they wish. You wouldn’t want someone with photoshop skills to make it look like a lost kitten and post it on Instagram. Especially not if that picture goes viral.
  4. Get seekBromance any way you want it!
    Our website has been retooled recently to make it friendlier to cell phone browsers. If the laptop isn’t convenient, download your favorite browser app and go for it! In addition, we’ve got apps for Android and iPhone that interface with the membership site.

Happy bromancing!

Later,
-The Blog Dude

Time to Become Your Own Bro-Boss Online


Hey dudes,

I wasn’t really planning to write this article, but with the explosion of unemployment that we’re dealing with because of COVID-19, I think it’s important for everyone who hasn’t worried about a side hustle before to start thinking about it now.

As we all know, your employer can yank your paycheck for any reason or no reason in most professions – and it’s gotten appalling how frequently and how casually they do it. With your own operation, of course, you have a much better chance of keeping revenue coming in at a steady rate. And everyone needs steady cash flow.

Nowadays, there are plenty of viable business models that a bro working alone can succeed in with minimal startup expenses. This list of online business types is way better researched than what I could put together on short notice, so I’m just giving you the link.

There’s an important aspect of all these businesses that entrepreneurs without marketing experience often overlook, and it isn’t usually talked about. Whatever you’re marketing, bro, you can’t get new customers without three major things:

  1. An audience
  2. Building trust
  3. A solid monetization plan

Every business has the monetization defined, but without the other two, it fails. So I need to introduce you to these core concepts.

Your audience is simply everyone who knows that your business exists. They may have heard of it by word of mouth, clicked on an ad, or they may find your online content very engaging and come back to it often. In other words, the entire spectrum. Most won’t become clients, but that’s the numbers game which is fundamental to all businesses.

Unless you already have a large email list from a related business, building an audience from zero requires either some cash outlay (for online ads), or the willingness to invest a lot of time in creating content that ranks highly in search (SEO). Don’t panic about the cost of online ads; if you plan them sensibly, you can attract a healthy number of good prospects for as low as $150/month. At any rate, you need to keep attracting new audience members continually, because many of your old ones will leave and forget about you.

The other crucial element, trust, is what leads some of your audience to eventually become buyers. Without it, you’re lost. After all, you don’t purchase things from some random person on the Internet, do you?

In the online world, nearly everyone goes about building trust by using emails that they send to potentially interested clients. You’ve signed up for a few of these, dude! The main point is to get the recipients engaged enough, over a short time, to either buy something or at least feel comfortable about buying it. In addition, it helps you communicate your brand and the brand’s values. Typically, the business provides some kind of free gift or info in exchange for getting your email address on this list.

To build such a list yourself, you need an autoresponder email series of your own. In the beginning, you definitely want to use a monthly service instead of buying the software on your own. Of course, you also need to plan out and write the emails, which requires you to be good at copywriting. If you aren’t, find a bro who is, or hire a freelance copy writer; there are plenty of those.

So, a quick summary:

  1. Pick a business model and monetize it to your specifics.
  2. Build your audience (constantly).
  3. Earn your audience’s trust with an email series.
  4. Make sales.

Happy bro-preneuring!

Later,
-The Blog Dude

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