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By now you’ve heard or read tons of advice about taking care of your health. Stuff that warns you that if you don’t take care of your health, it could wreck your life. All of this has to do with physical health, but what doesn’t get talked about nearly as much is your emotional health. And if you don’t take care of that, it can also ruin your life.
Of course, the rules for taking care of your physical health are pretty simple: get enough sleep, eat a balanced diet, exercise daily, don’t smoke, and don’t abuse alcohol or recreational drugs. (You might be able to get away with breaking some of these rules when you’re young, but as you get older you’ll start to wish that you hadn’t.)
The rules about taking care of your emotional health are pretty simple, too. All you need is to have multiple people in your life who:
- Love you (Yes, bros do love each other, just like all close friends do).
- Want the best for you
- Are supportive of you
That’s pretty much it. And that’s why having one or more bros is so important. Your emotional health is being starved if you depend on all of these things from your spouse, a relative, or your girlfriend – or boyfriend. Trying to get all of these things from a single person just doesn’t work, no matter how wonderful they are. Besides, the more people who can give you this kind of emotional support, the easier it becomes for you to give it back to them. It’s a positive feedback loop. So the more bros you have, the merrier.
There’s one more thing about emotional health that needs to be mentioned, though. Just as there are things that are good or bad for your physical health, there are people who are good or bad for your emotional health. Some people are emotionally abusive, meaning that they put you down, guilt you into doing things for them that no reasonable person would ask of you, or otherwise try to take advantage of your good nature. Don’t let these people remain in your life. They only damage your emotional health, and that damage gets worse over time.
Now back to bromancing! Stay healthy!
-The Blog Dude
Until fairly recently, I haven’t done very much with the seekBromance twitter account. It’s set up to tweet all the blog and Facebook posts, but that was about all in the beginning. The reason was that I didn’t have time to do much else with it, nor the money to hire a “social media coordinator.”
So in today’s news, I want to tell you that I’ve discovered a reasonably good happy medium for expanding seekBromance’s twitter presence. It’s an app called Crowdfire, which harvests all the keywords from our blog and other social sites, and – theoretically, at least – comes up with relevant tweets from the twittersphere, all on one neat page so that I can pick and choose which ones I think my followers (you!) will find useful. I hope you enjoy some of them going forward.
Of course, if there’s anything specific that you guys want me to retweet, send me the info. I can’t promise I’ll do it, but I’ll at least review the article.
-The Blog Dude
I have some fairly major news for you all this week. seekBromance.com is now fully integrated (once again) with the latest and greatest Facebook SDKs, to help make your bro-experience even more social. I’ll get to the details soon, but first I want to let you in on the back story.
When seekBromance was first launched back in 2011, it was always the goal to make it tie in comfortably with Facebook. As things evolved, of course, their tools changed, but for various technical reasons, we were unable to make the upgrades to the site that would let us keep up. Fortunately, those limitations are now gone, and just about everything is back to normal again in bromanceland.
So what can you now do with Facebook and seekBromance.com together?
First, you probably saw the blue Facebook login button on the front page, and near the bottom of most of the member-specific pages. If you set your account up to log in with Facebook, you’re automatically logged into seekBromance.com whenever your browser has your Facebook login active, too. There are two ways this works:
- If you already have a seekBromance account and an active brofile, just log in with your usual member ID and password, then click the Facebook login button and authorize seekBromance to access your basic Facebook data. Now, whenever you go to the front page, just click on the “Members Login” button near the top right, and you’ll be logged in automatically. No need to retype your user ID and password.
- If you don’t yet have a seekBromance.com account, clicking on the Facebook login will let you start creating one. You will still have to be verified as usual, and you’ll also need to complete your bro-file and get it approved before other members can find you. And you’ll still need a non-Facebook ID and password, so that you can still access seekBromance in case anything happens with the SDKs.
Second, if your Facebook friends have connected to seekBromance.com, even without your knowledge, you can discover them on the seekBromance site and add them to your address book! Just look for the blue “Find Facebook bros” button to access this feature.
For you history buffs out there, you used to be able to invite your Facebook friends directly to seekBromance.com, but Facebook has since yanked this feature. That’s now available only on mobile apps.
Speaking of our seekBromance Android and iPhone apps, which are soon to be released, they will have Facebook tie-ins, but not immediately. The plan for now is to add Facebook features in the second release, once all the initial issues are taken care of.
So now you’re up to date with the site, dude! If you have any trouble using the restored features, get a hold of support and we’ll figure out your issue.
As always, happy bromancing!
At seekBromance.com, if you’re male, a legal adult, and live in one of the 3 countries in our service area, you are welcome as a bro. Nothing else is required. It’s okay if you’re not interested in making friends with a particular guy, but it’s part of our philosophy not to judge other members based on their race, religion, orientation, or country of origin. We don’t make any room for intolerance, and we take reports of harassment extremely seriously.
We’ve celebrated individuality in all its various forms since the site was founded. Our bros live in America, Canada, and the UK. They are Christians, Muslims, Jews, Hindus, Sikhs, Atheists, Buddhists and Agnostics.
As an American, I as your founder strongly believe that America’s history of welcoming others not only represents the best of my country’s values, but it also defines the core of what has made America the great place it is, and has been. Love and friendship, not hate, are the solutions.
seekBromance.com is open to all guys. Thanks for helping us to make it a welcoming place.
-The Blog Dude
This time, I’m going to give you another tip for getting your bro-file noticed.
You’ve already figured out, from your browsing and searches, that sometimes the “About Me” part of your bro-file gets partly cut off in the search results, like this one:
The reason that happens is to make sure that each result in the list takes up about the same amount of room on the screen. (The same thing will happen in the upcoming apps, too, but the cutoff point will be even shorter!) If somebody wants to read your entire bro-file, they will have to click or tap to see the full screen that’s all about you.
If you want to maximize the odds that someone will open this full bro-file to see you in all your glory, I recommend that you use a trick from the world of journalism. In a news story, reporters always put the most important information in the first sentence, followed by the second most important, and so on down the line. They do this because their editors cut the story length at the last minute, and there’s no way to know where that cut will be.
In your “About Me” field, you can do exactly the same thing. Put the most interesting stuff in the first sentence, and keep going down to less interesting material. It takes a little work to re-organize, but the payoff can be big.
Best of luck, and happy bromancing!
-The Blog Dude
Men in general have had a difficult time in the “post-industrial” nations lately. Automation, technology, and trade have all combined to devalue muscle, and that’s very bad news for any man who isn’t academic enough to earn a degree. Also, the number of women in the workforce has exploded in the last few decades. Boys are not performing as well as girls in elementary school. And even men who graduate (with tremendous student loan debt) still struggle as employers hire people overseas at low wages.
Is it any wonder that so many guys have lost their confidence and their will to succeed, and feel powerless because of it?
Having a bro as a close friend won’t solve all these problems, but it will still do a lot for you, as long as you’re as willing to support your bro as he is to support you. In effect, your bro becomes an extension of your family, which can be a tremendous help if you need to work through supportiveness issues with your actual family. You and your bro can motivate each other to stay on track with your goals, whether they’re fitness, job hunting, or entrepreneurship.
Bottom line: if you have a bro, help him to help you succeed. If you don’t have a bro, get one. Make this the year to rebuild yourself into what you want to be: just remember that you probably can’t do it alone.
-The Blog Dude
It’s time for me to roll out the news that seekBromance.com is changing its subscription price. Starting on October 24, 2016, members who purchase a new subscription will pay $19.99 per month. If you currently have a subscription, the old price will be honored for as long as you keep your subscription active.
To be honest, I really dislike having to do this. As I’ve said many times in this blog, I want the membership base (and the subscriber base) for seekBromance to be as large as possible – and raising subscription prices works against that goal. So I think it’s only fair that I should explain a little.
In an earlier post from a few months ago, I mentioned that Google AdWords stopped showing ads for seekBromance temporarily, because some of our pages contained too much ad space area in proportion to the content. (Our login page was a prime example.) In order to keep the ads for seekBromance going, I had to chop some of the space for third-party ads, even though it could mean a drop in total revenue for the SB site.
Now that I have some data about the new ad layout, it looks like there has been a significant drop in ad fees that are coming in, unfortunately. And, since somebody has to pay the bills, I’m basically backed into a corner. Subscribers will have to pick up the slack, at least for the time being.
That being said, one thing that won’t ever change is my commitment to making seekBromance.com the best place on the web (and soon on your phones) for finding new guy friends. Hang in there, bros.
And if you need something to cheer you up, check out our Celebrity Testi-bro-nials commercial!
-The Blog Dude
Just a quick announcement this time about a minor change to the service.
As of now, you can get technical support for seekBromance.com by going to http://seekbromance.freshdesk.com. The old site, at http://seekbromance.desk.com, is going out of service this Thursday, September 22.
The new site still has the complete knowledge base, and it still lets you open a ticket when you’re having technical issues. You don’t need to be logged in to open a ticket, but if you want to view other people’s tickets, you need to sign up and create an account.
As always, the more info you provide in the ticket, the better the help you can get. Always include your member email for seekBromance.com and your login ID. Also include the login and any other header information if you get a problematic message through the site. And if all else fails, there’s still the email at support(at)seekbromance(dot)com.
-The Blog Dude